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Aug 23, 2017

Honesty 

The  key to honesty lies in the word integrity 

It is completeness to be honest ness 

“And he set up the pillars in the porch of the temple: and he set up the right pillar, and called the name thereof Jachin: and he set up the left pillar, and called the name thereof Boaz.”

1 Kings 7:21 KJV

http://bible.com/1/1ki.7.21.kjv

“And he reared up the pillars before the temple, one on the right hand, and the other on the left; and called the name of that on the right hand Jachin, and the name of that on the left Boaz.”

2 Chronicles 3:17 KJV

http://bible.com/1/2ch.3.17.kjv

“Then went Boaz up to the gate, and sat him down there: and, behold, the kinsman of whom Boaz spake came by; unto whom he said, Ho, such a one! turn aside, sit down here. And he turned aside, and sat down.”

Ruth 4:1 KJV

http://bible.com/1/rut.4.1.kjv

Why is honesty such a struggle because there is a battle between good and evil 

“I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.”

Romans 7:21 KJV

http://bible.com/1/rom.7.21.kjv

We see dishonesty as a shortcut to success 

The cost of dishonesty 

It prevents us to being the person we want to be it is like cancer 

We live in a culture of deception and lies and no wonder we have problems in our homes and relationships 

Dishonesty is a viscous circle one dishonesty act leads to another it is a habit that is the worst of all 

Dishonesty turns us into phonies and manipulators we play the role to long and lose ourselves. 

Dishonesty eventually catches up with us 

We never get away with our dishonest act even though we think we do

Dishonesty can't be hidden we eventually know someone is lying to us

Dishonesty ruins relationships 

Dishonesty attacks our nervous system it has powerful psychological effects 

Dishonesty prevents us from fulfillment 

Six reasons to be honest 

1 peace of mind 

2 character and reputation 

3 relationships honesty cements them together 

4 wholeness reaching our potential as a human being 

5 mental and physical health 

Being authentic 

Honesty is a choice!

Jul 22, 2017

respect

  1. Good people build their lives on the foundation of respect.
    1. As we read the book of Judges we see that the Benjimites lost the respect for life.  By taking the concubine and defiling her to the point of death. Her master the levite made it so gruesome  be dividing her body and sending it to the 12 tribes. They came down to Judge the tribe of Benjamins.  
      1. We should respect life itself. Because life is short. As we see Naomi's  family death visited them quickly. 
      2. God is the giver of life. He is the Creator  we ar made in the image of God. We have a body soul and spirit. When we get saved we become quicken by his spirit.
      3. Christ served others and those that respect life serve others.
      4. We respect life of all living things As we see this Family goes through a famine food and water becomes of most importance.

 

 

 

 

  1. the mysteries of life well never understand until we are in heaven.

6. So we have to be people of honesty and integrity in all things. 

  1. Four Pillars of respect
  1. Manners we will be known by the way we treat others. so we have to treat people with respect and as partners. treat people with integrity. 

Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.”

Matthew 7:12 KJV

  1. Language 

A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.”

Luke 6:45 KJV

“The words of a wise man's mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow up himself.”

Ecclesiastes 10:12 KJV

“And the women said unto Naomi, Blessed be the Lord, which hath not left thee this day without a kinsman, that his name may be famous in Israel. And he shall be unto thee a restorer of thy life, and a nourisher of thine old age: for thy daughter in law, which loveth thee, which is better to thee than seven sons, hath born him.”

Ruth 4:14-15 KJV

http://bible.com/1/rut.4.14-15.kjv

  1. Honoring the rules

“Then went Boaz up to the gate, and sat him down there: and, behold, the kinsman of whom Boaz spake came by; unto whom he said, Ho, such a one! turn aside, sit down here. And he turned aside, and sat down. And he took ten men of the elders of the city, and said, Sit ye down here. And they sat down. And he said unto the kinsman, Naomi, that is come again out of the country of Moab, selleth a parcel of land, which was our brother Elimelech's: And I thought to advertise thee, saying, Buy it before the inhabitants, and before the elders of my people. If thou wilt redeem it, redeem it: but if thou wilt not redeem it, then tell me, that I may know: for there is none to redeem it beside thee; and I am after thee. And he said, I will redeem it. Then said Boaz, What day thou buyest the field of the hand of Naomi, thou must buy it also of Ruth the Moabitess, the wife of the dead, to raise up the name of the dead upon his inheritance. And the kinsman said, I cannot redeem it for myself, lest I mar mine own inheritance: redeem thou my right to thyself; for I cannot redeem it. Now this was the manner in former time in Israel concerning redeeming and concerning changing, for to confirm all things; a man plucked off his shoe, and gave it to his neighbour: and this was a testimony in Israel. Therefore the kinsman said unto Boaz, Buy it for thee. So he drew off his shoe. And Boaz said unto the elders, and unto all the people, Ye are witnesses this day, that I have bought all that was Elimelech's, and all that was Chilion's and Mahlon's, of the hand of Naomi. Moreover Ruth the Moabitess, the wife of Mahlon, have I purchased to be my wife, to raise up the name of the dead upon his inheritance, that the name of the dead be not cut off from among his brethren, and from the gate of his place: ye are witnesses this day. And all the people that were in the gate, and the elders, said, We are witnesses. The Lord make the woman that is come into thine house like Rachel and like Leah, which two did build the house of Israel: and do thou worthily in Ephratah, and be famous in Beth–lehem:”

Ruth 4:1-11 KJV

http://bible.com/1/rut.4.1-11.kjv

      1. Obeying rules means we want to play fair 
      2. Rules are not made to be broken and everyone one is not doing it
      3. The rules is there because man can become self centered and this keep us to be considerate of others. 
      1. Ruth was a Moabite but now she is seen as pharez 
      2. Most people are judgement because they are self centered 
    1. Appreciating differences
  1. The rewards of respect
  2. We develop with active social skills and habits
  3. We make other people feel good
  4. We earn the respect of others
  5. We establish good relationships
  6. We are treated better by other people
  7. We improve our feelings of self-worth
  8. We build a solid reputation
  9. The golden rule treat others how you like to be treated is still the Golden Rule
Jun 6, 2017

Ruth Being Thankful Is A Habit 

"So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife: and when he went in unto her, the LORD gave her conception, and she bare a son. And the women said unto Naomi, Blessed be the LORD, which hath not left thee this day without a kinsman, that his name may be famous in Israel. And he shall be unto thee a restorer of thy life, and a nourisher of thine old age: for thy daughter in law, which loveth thee, which is better to thee than seven sons, hath born him. And Naomi took the child, and laid it in her bosom, and became nurse unto it. And the women her neighbours gave it a name, saying, There is a son born to Naomi; and they called his name Obed: he is the father of Jesse, the father of David."

 

Ruth 4:13-17

https://www.bible.com/bible/1/RUT.4.13-17

The best habit you will ever have

  • How many times a day do you complain?
  • Can you go the next 24 hours without complaining?
  • Carry a sheet of paper and what when you complain 
  • You might find out how much you complain 
  • You might find out that you don't have much to complain about 
  • I am thankful for...
  • Material 
  • People 
  • Things that don't fit these two 
  • Being thankful if practice regularly becomes a habit 
  • “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.”
  • Philippians 4:6 KJV
  • Real enjoyment starts with being thankful 
  • Before we ask give thanks 
  • Being thankful can become a way of life that if you choose it as a attitude and make it a habit a way of life 
  • “In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:18 KJV 
  • Appreciate what we have 
  • Benjamin Franklin
  • We never appreciate the value of water until the well runs dry.
  • Serving others will give me the appreciation for what you have.
  • Think but don't forget to thank
  • In many of the Cromwell Ian  churches in England order to work engraved in stone walls think and thank 
  • Think about what we have or develop an attitude of thankfulness
  • list Five things to be thankful for
  • Special people 
  • freedom of choice
  • boundless opportunities
  • education and learning
  • general abundance and quality of life
  • thankfulness is an attitude and a help when it becomes a habit
  • the develops a greater awareness and appreciation of what we have
  • It is not how much we have but how much we enjoyed Charles Spugeon
Jun 1, 2017

Boaz 

  1. Habits
    1. The power of habits
      1. "And Naomi had a kinsman of her husband's, a mighty man of wealth, of the family of Elimelech; and his name was Boaz." Ruth 2:1
        1. A mighty man of valor
        2. A pillar
        3. A man of wealth.
      2. We are creatures of habits
      3. We first make our habits and than our habits make us.
      4. The original meaning of habit was garment. And just like our garments we wear our habits daily.
        1. Habits
        2. Attitudes n
        3. Appearance
        4. We are not born with them.
        5. We are slaves to our habits we must make more good of habits than bad.
      5. Our personality 
      1. He made s habit to check on his fields 
      2. Boaz "is set before us as a model of piety, generosity and chastity"
      3. Ruth 2:11-17
    2. Ruth 2:1,4-7
    1. Ive been watching a lot of basketball bad habit
      1. Forming good habits is the key success
      2. We don't succeed by doing a good thing one time
      3. By doing things right on a regular basis 
      4. Habits are the key to all success
    2. But I always here about the superstar made to practice far past to what is expected 
  2. Winning habits

 

  1. 5.Changing our habits
    1. Habits can be changed
    2. The only thing that matters is desire
    3. The old cliche is you cant teach an old dog new tricks but since we have a dog ive read and watch many dog shows and you can teach an old dog.
    4. The best way to get rid of old habits is to replace them with good habits
    5. Benjamin made a list of thirteen habits he wanted and a list he didn't want and replaced them on a daily basis 
    6. 1. Temperance: Eat not to dullness and drink not to elevation.
      2. Silence: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself. Avoid trifling conversation.
      3. Order: Let all your things have their places. Let each part of your business have its time.
      4. Resolution: Resolve to perform what you ought. Perform without fail what you resolve.
      5. Frugality: Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself: i.e. Waste nothing.
      6. Industry: Lose no time. Be always employed in something useful. Cut off all unnecessary actions.
      7. Sincerity: Use no hurtful deceit. Think innocently and justly; and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
      8. Justice: Wrong none, by doing injuries or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
      9. Moderation: Avoid extremes. Forebear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
      10. Cleanliness: Tolerate no uncleanness in body, clothes or habitation.
      11. Chastity: Rarely use venery but for health or offspring; Never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another's peace or reputation.
      12. Tranquility: Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
      13. Humility: Imitate Jesus and Socrates

 

  1. 7.Habits and character
    1. Good habits make a difference 
    2. The guy with the same schedule and faithful at it every day he makes a differance. 
    3. I believe God has one grea thing for you to do but you can miss it if you are not faithful 
    4. Our habit reflect our character
      1. Integrity
      2. Compassion 
      3. Concern for others
      4. Service 
      5. Commitment
    5. Habits of the heart 
    6. Good habits make a difference
    7. We are what we do repeatedly Excellence is not an act but an habit.
May 10, 2017

The freedom of choice The Best decision is Attitude How can you have a good attitude when your world is caving in "Now it came to pass in the days when the judges ruled, that there was a famine in the land. And a certain man of Beth–lehem–judah went to sojourn in the country of Moab, he, and his wife, and his two sons." Ruth 1:1 And Elimelech Naomi's husband died; 5And Mahlon and Chilion died also both of them; 12Turn again, my daughters, go your way; 14And they lifted up their voice, and wept again: and Orpah kissed her mother in law; but Ruth clave unto her. Naomi Attitude 20And she said unto them, Call me not Naomi, call me Mara: for the Almighty hath dealt very bitterly with me. Ruth's Attitude 16And Ruth said, Entreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: Entreat…: or, Be not against me 17Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the Lord do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me. Attitude Is mental outlook A frame of mind It’s how we think It’s what goes on in a person. Thoughts and feelings about self others or circumstances. Its also expectancy if people are positive they expect the best If people are negative they expect the worst and usually get what they expect. When you talk to yourself that is your attitude Small attitude adjudgment will affect what we do and its outcome.We are our attitudes our attitudes is us The little things is what matters. Stay open minded You don’t know everything 16And Ruth said, Entreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: Entreat…: or, Be not against me 17Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the Lord do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me. Think for yourself 2And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. Think constructively Philippians 4:8 (KJV) Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. GIGO garbage in garbage out

Apr 25, 2017

1. Give to your partner. ”

giving will inspire

“2. Bring your highest self to the relationship.”

work on yourself

“. Challenge yourself to love your partner better. ”

look for was to be a better mate 

how can i improve

how can i love my partner better

“3. Be the spiritual leader. 

 thy God my God 

“5. Practice compassion. 

Sympathetic and suffering and misfortunes of others

“ If you are taking the high road, your response will be empathetic, not defensive, and will be about showing compassion for your partner, not defending your own behavior.”

when they are upset try to understand

“. Challenge yourself to love your partner better. ”

“6. Focus on yourself. ”

Apr 25, 2017

Success is more than making money

  1. People accept life as it is with all its difficulties and challenges
    1. The adapt to it rather than complain about it.
    2. Except responsibility for their own lives instead of bringing or making excuses.
    3. They say yes to life in spite of its negative elements and make the most of it, no matter what the circumstances.
    1. And look for the good in others and in the world, and usually seem to find it.
    2. They see life as a series of opportunities and possibilities and always explore them.
  2. Successful people develop and maintain a positive attitude toward life.
    1. They're sensitive to the needs and feelings of others.
    2. They are considerate and respectful.
    3. They have a way of bringing out the best in other People.
  3. Successful people build good relationships.
    1. They set goals, accomplish them, and then set new goals.
    2. They accept and enjoy challenges.
  4. Successful people have a sense of direction and purpose they know where they're going.
    1. They see learning as a joy, not a duty.
    2. They continually enrich their lives by learning new things and improving themselves.
    3. They are always discovery, always growing.
  5. Successful people have a strong desire to learn: about life, the world, in themselves.
    1. They get things done because they are not afraid of hard work, and they don't waste time.
    2. They use it in constructive ways.
    3. They don't get into ruts or become bored because they are too busy looking for new experiences
  6. Successful people are action oriented.
    1. They know that honesty is one of the main ingredients in the character of a good person.
    2. They are consistently truthful and both your private and public lives.
  7. Successful people maintain a high standard in their personal conduct.
    1. They get the most out of life because they put the most into it.
    2. They reap what they sow.
    3. They enjoy life to the fullest.
  8. Successful people understand the difference between existing in living, and always choose the latter.
Mar 1, 2017

I Corithians 13

Communication

Connection is King

Vs 1 Though I speak withe tongue 

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.

This is that intimate conversation letting each other know you care about the inner life of your spouse asking each other questions 

Face to to face conversation the staring into each others eyes because eye contact is crucial means of conversation

Stop looking at the tv screen phone and start looking at your wife or husband

Eye contact goes a long way this release adrenaline  the dopamine in the brain

Be careful who you open up to this is the gateway drug for affairs. 

This can produce fears and anxiety which lead to aggressive and accusatory communication. After the honeymoon was over theses things start to creep up on your marriage. 

When the love is not there you are consumed with anger and bitterness. 

When does this happen when your spuse is away on a business trip

Going to sleep 

Waking up

Going to work

Not getting a response or text for three hours

When one is being flirtatious with someone else

When your spouse is angry at you

Your spouse is depressed or sad

Your spouse is turning down your sexual advances

Your spouse is commenting or staring  anthers attractiveness

Ignoring your plead for connections

Turning down plans to do something together

Going out with friends without you 

Having hobbies without you

Develop an maintain trust in your marriage

Don't be judgmental 

Each other comes first for information and secret detalis an d protect it from those who try to harm it

Give to your spouse

giving inspires love

Mystic in marriage

And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

Beauty is skin deep

Bring your highest self so work on yourself

Be a spiritual leader

Challenge your self to love your spouse more

Practice compassion

Focus on yourself be a student of self and know your short comings and work on them

Get to know your spouse study them and be what they need

Take pride in being a good partner

Be a good listener

Know there friends 

Get involved in there hobbies and activities 

Connect through the day 

have eye contact

Look for opportunity to show support

Show gratitude  

Say thank you

Do something for them that make the day easier

Buy gifts

Jan 1, 2017

Created to need a help meet

Two Are Better Than One

It is good that man should not be alone

Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.

 When God created Adam he gave him a task to name every living creature. God wanted man to be busy for him. If things were to be accomplish Adam had to focus on the task at hand.  After naming all the creatures God saw the need for Adam for a help meet. 

No one should be alone. 

Eve was to help meet Adams needs

Man has needs

When a young man grows up. He works hard for the hope of ones approval.

It is good for a wife to approve and praise her man! It will go along way for him.

Respect: when a wife show no respect toward her husband. Of who he is and what he stands for than the man feels that he cannot trust his wife.

A one flesh connection. Man needs to feel that his wife intimacy is connecting with him. This is where men and women are different. Women love the communication to connect and man. The need for that sexual connection is a must for the man.

A man needs Charity. A man is taught not to cry don't be weak to keep it all together. But in reality we do have times of weakness and do fall apart. We cannot show these to others but a wife must be there for a shoulder to cry on and not be judge or looked down on. But a crutch to help him back up.

A time to refrain man has to get alone to think to gather his thoughts this could be with his friends a hobby or just a time alone do suffercate him with jealousy  behavior

Touch him man wants to be touched kiseed pressed upon,

Security marriage is a commitment and a man must know you are in for the long haul.

Need for a help meet to help man accomplish his task for God.

There came a point in Adams life that God saw his need for a help meet. 

So he gave him a women and ADAM CALLED HER eve. 

Genesis 2:20 but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

I will make him a help

One of the stereo types for man is that he will not ask for help. 

 

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